Archive for the ‘deep thoughts’ Category

The roles of women in the home

October 2, 2007

From Doug’s blog:

John Calvin on The Heaven-Blessed Priority of Homemaking
“And if men say, ‘what is this? A woman playeth the housewife, she spinneth on her distaff, and this is all that women can do.’ As in deed there are a number of fools that when they speak of women’s distaffs, of seeing to their children, will make a scorn of it, and despise it. But what then? What saith the heavenly Judge? That he is well pleased with it, and accepteth of it, and putteth it in his reckoning. So then let women learn to rejoice when they do their duty, and though the world despise it, let this comfort sweeten all respect they might have that way, and say, ‘God seeth me here, and his Angels, who are sufficient witnesses of my doings, although the world do not allow of them.’”[i]

[i] John Calvin, in A Sermon of Master John Caluine, vpon the first Epistle of Paul, toTimothie, published for the benefite and edifying of the Churche of God, “The 19. A Sermon on 1 Timothy 2:13-15” (London: G. Bishop and T. Woodcoke, 1579).


Apparently the idea that housekeeping is too demeaning for an intelligent woman is not a new one. Certain men have thought so for at least 4 centuries.
But I suspect that this is a relatively new thought pattern among women.
I have been saddened to see many Christian women lately object to the idea that the Biblical pattern is for young women to stay in their father’s house and under his authority until they are married. Under their parents’ supervision they can continue their education, polishing and honing the many skills of the Proverbs 31 woman, preparing to become highly accomplished wives and mothers when they are married.
Likewise, some Christian sisters even take exception to the clear Biblical pattern that a wife’s calling centers around the home.
This is not to say that every young woman will eventually be married, but marriage is the norm. And what if a woman is called to singleness? Did she waste all those years learning “womanly arts,” serving family and friends? Was there no gain for Christ’s kingdom in all the time she spent helping new mothers, cleaning the homes of the widows and elderly, serving the sick and needy, helping with the family business, planning and preparing meals for her parents and siblings, helping with her siblings’ education, furthering her own education in a myriad of ways?

“Do you mean to say that a woman isn’t allowed to have a calling or a career?” they ask, with offended feminine dignity.

Why does this sadden me? Because like many feminist thought patterns, it is demeaning to women. Motherhood and wifehood fit firmly within the definition of both terms (calling and career) and many say that these are high callings. But some women seem to hold the traditional Biblical role of women in such low esteem that they don’t even count these roles as callings or careers.

This is the “respect” that feminism creates for the women of the world.

More on the subject from writers I respect:

Censorship, Stewardship and the 9th commandment

September 22, 2007

posted by Pc3


We are quite vocal and unapologetic in our support of Vision Forum in our family. Kim has, at my direction, over the course of the last year posted on issues relevant to the patriarchy versus feminism debate and even links to relevant documents as Vision Forum and others have made them available.

After Kim’s recent post on patriarchy, and again on Doug Phillips article on gossip we attracted a little attention from patriarchy’s detractors that led to my having her turn on comment moderation. Over the last month or so Kim and I have had many discussions about our editorial policy, censoring comments and how to apply a biblical ethic to blog writing and to comment moderation. Yesterday I came across this short but brilliant explanation by Tim Bayly that puts the matter ever so much better than I could.

Here are some relevant quotes from the comment (I encourage everyone to read the article and the comments when you have time )

“… I’ve explained it often enough, but once more for the record: when men attack the word of God on this blog, directly contradicting the Holy Spirit , my choices are limited….
I can remove their attack and lies from our blog. …And that is not censorship, but faithful guarding of the good deposit which has been passed on to us.
This blog is not now, nor has it ever been, a forum for the free exchange of ideas. It’s an extension of the ministry of two pastors who are brothers and who have vowed to honor the Word of God. We have no obligation to provide a forum for heretics and rebels against God who seek to devour souls by feeding those souls lies. In fact, we have an obligation given us by the Holy Spirit to silence such men.
On the other hand, egalitarian feminists (Perry’s note: I would add to this list slanderers, and those who believe excommunicants over God’s people and elders) directly oppose God our Father, and His Word. Constantly, they twist Scripture making it say the very opposite of its plain meaning; and constantly they lead God’s little ones astray. Many think they should be allowed to do so because not allowing it will produce the fruit of women like you accusing them of censorship. Or because not allowing it will cause them to appear to be lacking in the collegiality deportment…Other times, we’ve removed comments–almost always for lying and almost never for disagreement with us. Sure, people may see removal for lying as removal for disagreement, but honest souls will know the truth.”

You see, if you own a blog or a website you will not only stand before God for the things you write, but you are also accountable for what you allow others to write and publish on your site. The Baylys understand this very well and as our family has come to understand it I have tightened our editorial control over our site. This is why, in part, we will be moving our blog to wordpress soon. -keep an eye out for the announcement- WordPress give us the ability to not only approve or reject comments like blogger but also to edit the content of them as we see fit. This way we might be able to interact with critics of our views, Vision Forum, Doug Phillips, the Botkin family or Patriarchy in context without letting them devour souls by feeding their lies to God’s children.

(parenthetical note: I owe the Baylys a giant hat tip for helping me to clarify my thinking and the terminology surrounding the blog trolls who are slandering my friends and the teachers of biblical family roles.)

This brings me to my final point, which is the reason we link to and promote those pieces of information, articles, and evidences as they become available. We have a duty to protect the good name of our neighbors. That extends a fair bit beyond not allowing slander but lay burdens upon us to promote and protect the good name of our neighbors insofar as we have the power to.

Question 144 of the Westminster Larger Catechism is helpful here:

Question 144: What are the duties required in the ninth commandment?

Answer: The duties required in the ninth commandment are, the preserving and promoting of truth between man and man, and the good name of our neighbor, as well as our own; appearing and standing for the truth; and from the heart, sincerely, freely, clearly, and fully, speaking the truth, and only the truth, in matters of judgment and justice, and in all other things: Whatsoever; a charitable esteem of our neighbors; loving, desiring, and rejoicing in their good name; sorrowing for, and covering of their infirmities; freely acknowledging of their gifts and graces, defending their innocency; a ready receiving of a good report, and unwillingness to admit of an evil report, concerning them; discouraging talebearers, flatterers, and slanderers; love and care of our own good name, and defending it when need requires; keeping of lawful promises; studying and practicing of: Whatsoever things are true, honest, lovely, and of good report.

In light of the above we actively promote and spread the antidote to the lies, slander, and mischaracterization whenever we can. One of the apparent strategies of the blog trolls in question has been to create a series of links and websites that will rise in the search engine rankings so that whenever an innocent gets wind of the rumors and googles Vision Forum or someone attached to them they are fairly certain to see the lies. This is why they put up several sites each, this is why they link proficiently to one another, and this is why they delight in using the names of people or repetitiously in their writing. The ONLY way I know to combat these vicious attempts to destroy innocent names is to link to the truth.

It’s really that simple. Just link to God-honoring commentary, letters and proofs that help to protect the good name of the people I love and repect. The 9th commandment requires it of me and it requires it of you.

In closing I will leave you with a number of links I think are relevent to current issues surrounding accusations against Doug Phillips, Brian Abshire, Patriarchy and the Biblical family.

I hope you will take time to read them and link to them to help in “the preserving and promoting of truth between man and man” and “ standing for the truth; and from the heart, sincerely, freely, clearly, and fully” while “discouraging talebearers” and defending the innocent.

Perry C

Links:

Vision Forum Responds to Don Veinot

Part one

Part two (NEW)

Brian Abshire’s gracious response to Don Veinot

Round 1

Round 2

Vision Forum Responds to the Epsteins and their coloaboraters

Doug Phillips teaches on high tech dishonor

Vision Forum article on Tale Bearing by Alexander Strauch

Vision Forum Ministries article on De-feminizing your family

Doug Phillips and Voddie Baucham cook up some “sacred cows”

Doug Phillips and Geoff Botkin teach us about using the “C” word

Doug Phillips writes about tearing down strawmen

More links and commentary:

10 Life Lessons from The Princess Bride

September 17, 2007

There is a short list of films that have become a part of our family culture, and The Princess Bride is on that list. We all quote from it and we each understand what the other means by such quotes.
Mr. Besilly has a charming list of 10 Life Lessons from The Princess Bride. I can’t improve upon his list so I asked his permission to share it here as it appears on his own blog.
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1.
It’s possible, with the right strategy, to best a giant.
2. Outsmarting the one who thinks he is smartest of all is not inconceivable. Pride creates vulnerability.
3. Don’t believe everything you hear. It appears people can actually survive the fire-swamp.
4. The obvious bad guy isn’t always the bad guy, but a reputation can be bigger than reality.
5.
Reciting your name and life’s purpose with passion to everyone you meet can gain you the resources you need to reach your goal. Plus win you a few lifelong friends along the way.
6.
Good fighting is as much about style as it is about skill. Add style to your skills because style is more fun to watch.
7.
The six fingered man was wicked then and he’s wicked now. Pay attention to track records they tell a true story.The_princess_bride764981
8.
There is such a thing as true love if you are willing to fight to the death for it.
9.
Having a great gift for rhyme can bring levity during a difficult time… I mean it. Anybody want a peanut? A sense of humor is priceless.
10.
Fairy tales are a great reminder that happy endings are possible if you believe in them. We sacrifice for those things we believe in.

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In his essay, “On Faerie Stories,” Tolkien is said to compare fairy tales to the story of the Gospel.
I tend to agree: the damsel in distress, endangered and oppressed, is rescued by her Knight in Shining Armor. The ending is always happy but never comes quickly or easily. First comes seeming failure and hopelessness, followed in the end by victory over the enemy and euphoric joy in their reunion. Tolkien even coined a word for the turning point, in which apparent defeat becomes glorious victory: eucatastrophe
Is it just me, or does this storyline sound strikingly familiar to you too?

BTW, I’ve looked for Tolkien’s essay but haven’t seen it. Anybody got a peanut?

It’s coming ….. are you ready?

September 14, 2007

I’m thankful for men like Colin Gunn who are willing to fight the culture war.

I can’t wait to see the movie…..the official site for The Monsterous Regiment movie is here.

Ephesians 6:12

For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.

Gas math

June 15, 2007

edited to add my 2 cents’ worth

I filled up the van this afternoon and calculated the gas mileage. Bear with me, because I did all of the following in my head while driving.
358 miles divided by 29 gallons = approx. 12 mpg.
“12 miles per gallon? That stinks,” thought I.
Then I played with the numbers some more. I’m a numbers person.
12 miles per gallon = about 520 feet per ounce. 2 tablespoons of gasoline moves my 15 passenger van 540 feet.
2 tablespoons to move 5 or 6 thousand pounds of steel, flesh, and diaper bags 1/10 of a mile. Even at $3/gallon, that’s less than 2 1/2 cents. Not a bad deal.
Based on moving pounds and feet, I would have to move my own carcass nearly 4 miles to get the same level of efficiency. I don’t think 2 oz of chocolate would get me that far.
Maybe chocolate covered coffee beans would do it…but not 2 cents’ worth.

Timing, tact, and a call to repentance

April 24, 2007

My line about making sad eyes at each other has been quoted more than once. Here is a more complete context of the line:

“Don’t go to these links expecting to read soft words of sorrow and sympathy. We all mourn the victims and the wickedness that was done, but standing about making sad eyes at one another won’t do a bit of good.
Our nation has so much to repent for…”

I will admit that I was a little ambiguous – I meant to say (and thought I said) that just making sad eyes wouldn’t help.
In the past during times of tragedy, Americans (and Christians throughout history) have always responded by examining themselves to determine whether the tragedy is likely to be a sign of God’s displeasure.

In his commentary on Luke 13:1-5, Matthew Henry says,
“…He [Christ] cautioned his hearers not to blame great sufferers, as if they were therefore to be accounted great sinners. As no place or employment can secure from the stroke of death, we should consider the sudden removals of others as warnings to ourselves. On these accounts Christ founded a call to repentance. The same Jesus that bids us repent, for the kingdom of heaven is at hand, bids us repent, for otherwise we shall perish.”

This reaction is not unique to Christians – it is in human nature to ask, “Why?” when such things happen.
Of course we can’t know the mind of God, but we can expect things to go badly when we are not living in obedience to Him, both as individuals (Pr. 10:24, 12:21, and as a nation (Pr. 11:11, Deut. 28:15-68). And if we have reason to believe that we are under judgment, we want to repent quickly, not wait for the grief to subside and new tragedy to fall before we broach the subject.
When is a better time to preach repentance to society at large: when the economy is strong and crime is decreasing, there’s a chicken in every pot and 2 cars in every garage? Or when we’ve been stricken by terrorists, epidemics, hurricanes and drug wars?

This does not mean that you step up to the grieving survivors of a fatal car wreck and tell them it’s all their fault. Few would be offended at being warned to drive more carefully after a horrific car wreck makes the headlines, but the grieving family would be very likely to take offense. There are different roles to be played, depending upon time, place, circumstances and other factors.

Jesus wept with Lazarus’s sister Mary. He showed compassion to those who were suffering. But when He was told in Luke 13 about the Galileans whose blood Herod mingled with their sacrifices, His immediate response was assurance that those who died were no worse than the rest and a call to national repentance.

I know and love Mr. Phillips as a Christian brother, and I think that the Vision Forum email newsletter on Virginia Tech was right on, but my point here is not to defend him. It is to rebut the claim that people should not address an important subject when it is immediately relevant because someone, somewhere, might misunderstand or find it hurtful.
Some topics are going to offend. So does the Gospel, as another reader commented.

When the Babylonians were carrying the Israelite captives away, do you think the people really wanted to hear Jeremiah and Isaiah blame it on their own idolatry? When God struck down thousands of Israelites in the wilderness, did Moses first come hug them and then much later, when their grief had softened, gently mention that they might want to consider how God felt about their complaining?

God brings disaster upon nations that disobey:

Isaiah 45:7 I form light and create darkness, I make well-being and create calamity, I am the LORD, who does all these things.

Amos 3:6 Is a trumpet blown in a city, and the people are not afraid? Does disaster come to a city, unless the LORD has done it?

Job 2:10 …Shall we receive good from God, and shall we not receive evil?…

Our nation is in disobedience:
Abortion isn’t just in existence, but it is also nationally SANCTIONED. There were always Israelites who were going to be wicked (thus God’s commands in Deut 13 on how to deal with them) but it was when there was a NATIONAL idolatry as in the time of Ahab or Solomon that God moved against his whole people in judgement.

The public school system is corrupt at its very core. Yes, I know a lot of people will be offended to hear me say this but I strongly believe that the system cannot be redeemed. It is funded by theft and founded in the tenets of marxism and humanism. That’s a whole other discussion, but if you doubt it just let me encourage you to read up on the founders of the public school system. But quickly now, ask yourself: would you send your children to a muslim school? What if some of the teachers were professing Christians, but still taught the Q’ran and the tenets of Islam as required? Would you want your Christian children to be immersed in those teachings for most of their waking hours, 5 days/week from the age of 5 or less? Yes, your child might be a Christian when he graduates, but have you done your very best to disciple him, to raise him up in the fear and admonition of the Lord?
Maybe you disagree on this point. I know many Christians do. We’ll just have to agree to disagree, and I’ll reopen that cans of worms another day.

Many of our most popular books, movies and popular music lyrics are morally repulsive (Ps. 101:3).

Never before in the history of Western Civilization has homosexuality gained such widespread acceptance.

Yes, our nation is in sin. We need to repent.

Christian leaders and pastors have a duty to respond during times like this. This response can take many legitimate forms. A call to repentance is one.

Pro 14:34 Righteousness exalts a nation, but sin is a reproach to any people.

The problem of evil and Viriginia Tech

April 19, 2007

read HomemakerAng’s comment on a previous post here.

My reply:
God brings judgment upon the nations in many forms. One way is in the depravity of the people.

Psa 81:11-12 “But my people did not listen to my voice; Israel would not submit to me. So I gave them over to their stubborn hearts, to follow their own counsel.

That doesn’t mean that each individual who suffers during such times is under special, particular judgment from God. Rather, God’s judgment upon the nation as a whole brings suffering to individuals.

Luk 13:1-5 There were some present at that very time who told him about the Galileans whose blood Pilate had mingled with their sacrifices. And he answered them, “Do you think that these Galileans were worse sinners than all the other Galileans, because they suffered in this way?
No, I tell you; but unless you repent, you will all likewise perish. Or those eighteen on whom the tower in Siloam fell and killed them: do you think that they were worse offenders than all the others who lived in Jerusalem? No, I tell you; but unless you repent, you will all likewise perish.”

Do you still doubt that God brings catastrophes? He flooded the earth, destroying all of mankind except for Noah and his family. He hardened the heart of Pharaoh and brought plagues upon the Egyptians. He gave the Canaanites over to the Hebrews because of their wickedness. He brought terrible judgment upon the Israelites and their children in the form of famine, pestilence and conquering by brutal empires.

We know from the Scriptures that God deals with nations by bringing judgment upon them. Why not us?

Amo 3:6 Is a trumpet blown in a city, and the people are not afraid? Does disaster come to a city, unless the LORD has done it?

Like us, Satan is a mere creature, created by God. He is not the equal and opposite of God, Ultimate Evil, engaged in an eons-long battle to rule all of creation – though he might like us to think so. He is a fallen angel, a rebellious servant of the Most High, doomed for all eternity.

2Pe 2:4 For if God did not spare angels when they sinned, but cast them into hell and committed them to chains of gloomy darkness to be kept until the judgment…

Can you really make a case from Scripture that Satan, a creature, can act outside of God’s sovereign will? Don’t you at least believe that God could stop terrorists and shooters if He chose? So how can you say that “Satan won”? Wasn’t God standing by passively with the power and authority to intercede?
In Job’s case, we see Satan wheedling very specific permissions from God. God Himself takes responsibility for Job’s trials, having granted Satan permission to bring those trials upon Job.

Job 2:3-6 And the LORD said to Satan, “Have you considered my servant Job, that there is none like him on the earth, a blameless and upright man, who fears God and turns away from evil? He still holds fast his integrity, although you incited me against him to destroy him without reason.”
Then Satan answered the LORD and said, “Skin for skin! All that a man has he will give for his life. But stretch out your hand and touch his bone and his flesh, and he will curse you to your face.”
And the LORD said to Satan, “Behold, he is in your hand; only spare his life.”

Now: why does God allow these things to happen to good people?
First of all, most Christians would agree that we are all sinners, deserving of death. Our every breath is a gift from God.
But why do Christians suffer? Why do non-murderers so often fall victim to terrorists and tornados? What good came of the death of martyrs throughout the history of the Church?

Sometimes it is hard for us to understand God’s plan. We can’t always predict the results of a particular event, especially if it breaks our hearts and makes us feel as if our world is falling apart. But even in the hard times, we know that God’s Word is true. We know that good for God’s people will come of these things.

Rom 8:28 And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.

HomemakerAng said, “Yes we deserve death and each breath is a gift but would you guys all agree to these same findings if, God forbid, you or I found our children dead at a homeschooling conference they were singing at or during our family worship service and that it was GOD that did this? I don’t think so.

We have lost a child to stillbirth and experienced other tragedies and acts of violence within our immediate and extended family. We have many Christian friends who have as well. We have never doubted that it was God’s will, and that it was all for God’s glory and our good. On the contrary, we found and continue to find great peace and joy in knowing this. Our sufferings are not meaningless; God has a plan and He is working it out throughout history in each of our lives.

Why was our little Sarah stillborn? We were privileged to experience God’s grace, peace and comfort firsthand. We were reminded of the sanctity of life and the incredible gift of each precious child, the frailty of life, and our own dependence upon our Heavenly Father for every breath.
Did she die because we were wicked? No, but she did die because we live in a sinful world.

What good came of the persecution of the Protestants, Presbyterians, and Huguenots persecuted? Dr. Morecraft and my own hubby have a theory on that.

What good came of the death of Christians in the Roman arenas? The heathen Romans saw the strength of the followers of Christ and they feared, giving glory to God. The Christians fled to avoid persecution, spreading the Gospel throughout the civilized world. You and I were blessed by their deaths.

We can’t claim to understand God’s plan entirely, but whether or not we see the good we know it’s there. God is good, and we are His.

Jer 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.

read a follow-up post here

On Virginia Tech

April 18, 2007

I wasn’t going to post on the subject, but my young friend Cara has a few wise words that I really had to pass along for others to see. Please take 90 seconds and go read No Window Jumping.

Much longer but also well worth the time: Doug Phillips’ post On The Horror At Virginia Tech, along with readers’ comments that he received in response.

Don’t go to these links expecting to read soft words of sorrow and sympathy. We all mourn the victims and the wickedness that was done, but standing about making sad eyes at one another won’t do a bit of good.

Our nation has so much to repent for…

see a follow-up post here, and a third here.

As it is, I rejoice, not because you were grieved, but because you were grieved into repenting. For you felt a godly grief, so that you suffered no loss through us.
For godly grief produces a repentance that leads to salvation without regret, whereas worldly grief produces death.

2 Corinthians 7:9-10

On freedom

April 3, 2007

If you would be free to sail the seven seas, you must make yourself a slave to the compass. By nature, man desires something he cannot have: total freedom. There are certain freedoms we can have, but they have corresponding bondages. And there are certain bondages we can have which afford us corresponding freedoms. For example, you can be free from the toothbrush, and in bondage to cavities, or you can make yourself a slave to the toothbrush, and be free from cavities. You cannot be free from the toothbrush and free from cavities. That kind of freedom, total freedom, does not exist.

From 30 Days To Understanding the Bible, by Max E. Anders

Romance novels

March 26, 2007

My husband and I were discussing romance novels the other day, and I have to say that I have always thought of romance novels as p*rn for women. While men often have a weakness toward straying visually, I think that emotional straying is a weakness common to women. Romance novels fit the bill. The fact that they are often extremely graphic only makes the comparison even stronger.

This begs the question: what about Christian romance novels? The nice clean sort, where people only long for each other until they are safely married? The ones were they undergo physical and emotional turmoil before ultimately finding their destiny in their life partner?

I have read a few of these in the past, and I still think they cultivate and fill appetites that ought to be filled by a woman’s husband or that should not exist in the first place. I think that these books encourage ladies to be discontent with their day-to-day lives which lack the angst and excitement of the heroine; bored with their husbands who may bear little resemblance to the dashing hero; disappointed in their spiritual life which may lack the earth-shattering highs and lows of the characters in these books; and dissatisfied with their own appearance and personality.

If mass-marketed romance novels are p*rn for women, then maybe Christian romance novels are like the underwear section in the Sears catalog is for men: full of images that are technically clean but nonetheless lead our thought life in directions that are not glorifying to God.

Of course these accusations may be leveled against any book that presents trials, struggles and a happy ending, but some awaken healthy desires in a godly way while others do not. A good book may inspire readers to work harder, love more deeply, or fight more courageously, but I think that romance novels are designed to awaken our coveting nature: we women want romance, excitement, love, security. We might already have all these but we want more – like Eve, we want to know what we’re missing. The serpent didn’t tempt Eve by telling her how delicious the fruit was; he tantalized her with whispered hints of things outside her experience.

Some may say, “But what about the Song of Solomon?”
Obviously the book has deep figurative lessons, but even if you take it entirely literally, the Song of Solomon is not a romance novel: it is a celebration of love and a mutual praising. In its treatment of love, it bears little resemblance to romance novels of any sort.

Maybe my evaluation of romance novels sounds harsh, but even if you disagree I hope you’ll evaluate your choice of books Biblically. Don’t look only for objectionable language or content. Ask yourself a series of questions:

  • What sort of worldview is reflected?
  • What attitudes does it foster?
  • What desires does it seek to raise in the reader?
  • What is the message or moral of the story?
  • Why do I want to read it?
  • And ultimately, how will reading this book aid me in my mission, furthering the kingdom of God?

Can you add to the list?
No uninspired book will be perfect, but let’s not fool ourselves about which ones are true, noble, just, pure…